Weekly Live Show Recap - Ep. 9 - Singular or Diversified Purpose? - Ft. Mindy Green

Introduction:

How often do we find ourselves stuck in the past or overthinking our future? How often do we find ourselves wondering how we missed the present moment?

Many people struggle to find peace and quiet in the here and now only to realize that life has passed them by like a dream in the wind. 

In this week’s discussion Boruch and Yermi explore the real meaning and difference between each of these behaviors.

In case you missed the podcast, Wednesday Live Show, and Thursday Night Clubhouse discussions - please check out the following links: 

Wednesday Evening Live Show 

Thursday Night Clubhouse Discussion

Who is Mindy Green? 

• Married for 30 years, 4 children, and 2 adorable grandchildren. 
• Focuses on growing along with family. 
• Raising children is an opportunity for personal growth. 
• You’re constantly being confronted by the things that challenge you, especially childhood triggers, which force you to grow and overcome. 
• Mindy uses her personal experience with her own family, as well as her experience in coaching, social work, and “neuroeducation” to help families thrive together not just survive each other. 

[Yermi]

• Long term marriages
• Advice from someone married for 60 years…prioritize your family and live in the present moment. That’s where success comes from. 

Watch the recap below:

Being Present:

• When we bring our past experiences into the present we end up suffering. 
• “There’s a difference between moving forward, and moving on.”
• Moving forward is embracing what has happened in the past and recognizing that it’s part of who you are but doesn’t confine you. 
• Moving on is ignoring the past and not acknowledging it. 
• Use your past experiences as lessons to be able to grow and help others. 
• Learn to “fold” time by learning from the experiences of others. (Think of the analogy of getting rid of your baggage by folding the clothes and putting them neatly away where they belong).

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Getting Over The Past:

• Our past issues affect the neuro-pathways in our brain. 
• Being in the present moment means recognizing our past experiences and making a conscious decision to create new pathways and new habits. 
• Put a time stamp on experiences and don’t let them continue on forever. 
• Our unique experiences allow us to seek our opportunities that’ll help us grow. 
• The more you shed your past the more you create new interests and room for new experiences. 
• We change every day.  

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The Here and Now:

• Disrupt the thought pattern in the moment by grounding yourself and tapping into your senses (breathing, tactile, visual). This will bring you back to the moment. 
• Look at your kids/spouse and others' faces and be aware of what they’re thinking and feeling while you’re dealing with them. 
• Being present is one of the greatest gifts you can give someone.  
• Learn to honor what’s going on in the moment. 
• Our kids will learn to model their behavior after us. If you show them we don’t have time that will teach them that same lesson. 

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Expectations of People

• Children are not meant to be miniature adults. Don’t expect your kids to respond in a way that you yourself don’t do. 
• Children don’t always know HOW to do what we need or want them to do (use your words etc). We have to model and teach them those skills. 
• Don’t project your self frustrations onto others. 
• Work actively to appreciate every moment you have with your children and family. 
• Our children mimic what they see us doing. 

[Editor's note: The same principles hold true for our team members, employees, or anyone for that matter.]

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Staying Grounded:

• Put down the distractions. 
• Assess where you have energy leaks, places that take your energy away (Facebook, social media, the news). 
• Find ways of adding energy (reading, quality time)
• Set a time limit for distracted time. 
• Be honest about your priorities. 
• Being present is a conscious choice 
• Different individuals need different amounts of time and energy input. 
• Everyone has different needs to be met. 
• You have 24 hours in a day, what can you give one hour to. 
• Recognize that it’s normal for us to have a hard time being present, that’s okay. But then redirect and refocus.  
• Acknowledge your current stage of life and what are the realistic expectations for this stage. 
• The way you show up each day helps you to move forward bit the big massive leaps. 

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Understanding The Future:

• The future is not necessarily something far off. In reality, the future is really just the next immediate moment. 
• Our intentions plant the seeds for our future. 
• If you want to make changes for the future then change your habits right now. 
• “So often we are trying to be a good descendant that really we need to think about being a good ancestor.”
• One good act you do today leads to a good act you’ll do tomorrow. 
• Decide what you want your future to look like. 
• Take the good lessons of the past, implement them today, so that you can have a good future. 
• The only thing in our power is the current Now. 
• Be responsive vs reactionary. 
• There’s a power in the pause. 
• Grounding yourself and acknowledging what’s happening can move you from reactive to responsive.

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The Bottom Line: 

The 3 main takeaway points were: 

• We are growing every day, so look for lessons to be learned 
• The way we “show up” as parents, is the way our kids end up growing up
• Focus on staying grounded and avoid reacting upon impulse 

Contributors to this article include:
 

Mindy Green - Mindy Green is a clinical social worker, certified life coach, and neuroeducator. Having grown up surrounded by a large, extended family, many of her fondest memories and enduring life lessons came from what she observed and learned during family gatherings. Those childhood experiences fueled her passion to work with parents to create a solid foundation so they and their families can thrive in all areas of life. She is a mom of four amazing young adults and grandma to two lively grandsons. 

To reach and learn more about Mindy Green you can follow her on Facebook and LinkedIn and learn more about her through her Website or by emailing her at [email protected] 

Boruch DuBrow - Boruch is an Exceptional Development Coach with over 13 years of experience as an educator. Boruch has helped hundreds of people feeling lost in life to discover their path and reach their potential. Today, Boruch educates and empowers individuals and organizations to discover their path, define their purpose, and create an “Exceptional” future for themselves, their families, and their organizations.

To learn more about Boruch DuBrow feel free to follow him on LinkedIn, or Instagram, You can also reach Boruch by emailing him at [email protected]

Yermi Kurkus - Yermi has spent most of his career helping people at their lowest find meaning and purpose through proven methods that are built from psychology, philosophy, and mystical teachings. Yermi's approach is pragmatic and down to earth, thus coining the term Practical Mindfulness. 

Today, Yermi partners up with business owners, professionals, and individuals that want to become more "irresistible" in their personal and professional lives, as well as helping founders build "irresistible" systems in their businesses.

To learn more about Yermi Kurkus feel free to follow him on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube. You can also reach Yermi by emailing him at [email protected]